Work With Your Ex
It can be difficult to work with a spouse when going through a divorce. It’s typical to feel betrayed or even confused. Especially if the divorce hasn’t been a pretty one. We can not fault you on not wanting to work with them. We can say that it might be better for you in the long run to corporate with them. You don’t have to give into their demands but don’t be hostile either. The court will take notice of this. Your willingness to work with your former spouse can weigh in on the court’s decision.
It’s not just in the courtroom either. You need to corporate outside of the courtroom as well. Even if you get custody the other parent might have visitation rights. The court wants to know you will follow these visitation rights. Not to mention how much easier it is on the child. It’s hard enough their parents are separating. The two of you fighting will only make things more confusing for them.
Be careful telling stories about your ex as well. That goes against the whole corporating thing. If you do have to tell a negative story about your former spouse remember two key things.
- Make sure it is relevant.
- Make sure it is honest.
When we say relevant we mean things that should be noted. If your former spouse has a recent record of abuse it’s important to point this out. If your former spouse can’t come close to beating you at Mario Kart, that’s less important. Don’t even think of bringing up what happened at that house party 5 years ago either. You know the one. Had to buy a new couch after that.
Honesty is also important. We can have a natural tendency to brighten or darken a tale. In court though you need to keep to the facts. One lie and they might doubt the rest of the facts too. It also shows dishonesty in your character. When fighting for custody you need your character as strong as possible. References from others will help to build this. The best example is how you appear in the courtroom. Make a good impression on the judge.
To help your case even more, get an experienced attorney to represent you. They can create a strong defense and a strong case for you.